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Not all drug treatments are the same

… Learn how Justin’s Lighthouse graduates stay sober 90% more than other programs


The average addict/alcoholic who seeks-out recovery has to go to five (5) different drug and alcohol treatment programs before they are able to stay sober…

Justin’s Lighthouse residents stay sober because they change every area of their life!


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Choosing the right drug and alcohol program

Recovery from drugs, alcohol, or mental-illness has become complicated by an industry that is driven more by insurance companies and quick-fixes rather than, changing lives, healing families, or, lasting recovery.


Justin’s Lighthouse – a faith-based long-term addiction recovery treatment program

We offer lasting change for each of our clients, the first time. There is no need to shuffle from one rehab to another after graduating our recovery program.

We haven’t re-invented the wheel, so to speak, we simply empower our residents to make changes in all areas of their life, which, guarantees a future of healthier coping skills and deeper understanding of who they really are.


Our typical client has a long history of one or more of the following;

  • Heroin/ Fentanyl / Oxy
  • Prescription pill abuse
  • Substance abuse
  • Alcohol Abuse
  • Meth abuse
  • Defiant behaviors
  • Promiscuous sex
  • Gambling
  • Self-defeating behaviors
  • History of “blowing it”, even though they’re really smart
  • Relationship problems
  • Depression
  • Mental-illness

.. But, leave here with a whole new sober-life!


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Understanding root causes of addiction is key

Addiction & Alcoholism are symptoms of deeper wounds, so, drinking and drugging are simply the result of unfinished business.

Drugs & alcohol have become the solution for dealing with difficult life-problems, including, internal emotional deficiencies, and a low self-image.

Our program is centered on a ‘Peer-to-Peer’ structure, (the most successful of all treatment formats) wherein the strength of the group empowers each resident by leading by example, sharing vulnerabilities, and encouraging newer members as they begin their journey. 


One addict supporting another addict

Directed by program leaders who share a wealth of knowledge and expertise as they lead the group through a daily routine of activities, which include;

  • Meals (prepared by group-members)
  • Spiritual group (peer leader)
  • Lectures  (conducted by Director)
  • Groups  (counselor)
  • Private sessions  (counselor)
  • Exercise  (at Gym)
  • Reflection time  (personal time)
  • project time (on-property)

This format creates a close family-environment allowing each person to grow at their own pace without judgement, as they delve into a journey of self-discovery.

Residents bond together as they learn to be a part of a group but also are given the space to spend time alone to think, rest, or reflect.

Change occurs through-out the process as each resident gains a tremendous amount of knowledge about themselves, within a safe-space to practice their new behaviors, new perspectives, and even space to resist, occasionally, as they seek complete healing.



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What’s really driving addiction?

Emotional pain that’s never been touched – Inability to handle difficult life-situations – Seeing self as ‘less-than’ while portraying ‘more-than’ – Incessant need to have everything ‘perfect’ – and, a host of other deficiencies that are treatable with the right recovery program.


Addictions come with

  • Self-defeating behaviors
  • Old hurts/ emotional wounds
  • Resentments & bitterness
  • Families who need their own healing

Learn all about

  • Perfectionism
  • Shameful/Shameless dynamic
  • Co-Dependency
  • Identity distortions
  • Why running from problems is easy
  • Why you always blow-it after periods of success

Alcoholism and Addiction are symptoms

… of much deeper wounds, and an inability to handle life’s difficulties, such as;

  • Doing really-well for short periods, then mess up
  • High anxiety
  • Feel shame but tell people you’re ‘fine’
  • lack of identity
  • Mad at self for under-achieving

Don’t sweat it, we can teach you like we have so many others

My family was a statistic, now we help families avoid it!

After my brother died from an overdose, we founded Justin’s Lighthouse, 18 years ago.

We’ve developed a recovery program that includes all the elements that weren’t available to my brother to make them available to you and your family, for lasting results.

Learn powerful elements such as;

  • Allowing you to grow & heal at your own pace for a more complete change
  • Time to rest while you’re still feeling icky-We don’t force you to sit in groups when you can’t even move your body
  • A slowed-down process for genuine healing
  • New information that helps you develop in all areas of your life 
  • Promote a genuine change within you so don’t even about drinking or using in your future
  • Teach you in-depth things about yourself that could never be learned in short-term treatment programs

Learn things you may not even know about yourself…

For example;

  • Why you blow it when everything is going well
  • Why you have a low self-image even though you have so much talent
  • Why you need to act like you have it all together when you feel so bad
  • Run away from problems- look to others to solve them
  • Cringe when you hear the word ‘No’
  • Act like you’re ‘fine’ when you’re dying inside

…, and so much more!

Sobriety is the result of changing what’s inside

Change‘- not ‘Sobriety’ is the ultimate goal.

Let’s face it, you’ve “gotten sober” plenty of times, before, but still struggle with a lot of issues, such as;    

  • Being comfortable in your own skin
  • Handling problems
  • Accepting things you don’t control (including other peoples behavior/thoughts, or opinions)
  • Worry about what other people think
  • Shame that aren’t where you want to be
  • Don’t understand why other’s don’t appreciate you, for YOU

Once a person cleans out the internal issues that drive the desires to drink-use-numb-escape; those same desires are no longer a part of the person.


Call us today, we can help!



Why addicts fail at rehab but don’t mean to

Any Alcoholic/Addict can fake their way through a treatment program for a short period of time. They don’t realize they are ‘faking’, they are just treating the situation as they always do.

About the time that real honesty and change begins to come out – it’s time to go home.

Taking no new coping skills with you and are confused because they thought they ‘completed’ a program.


Long-term treatment programs

Are much more effective for lasting change because of the time element that allows for change to occur at the pace of the alcoholic/addict.

The Alcoholic/Addict has the space to ‘fake-it’, but then ‘face-it’. 

When the patient leaves a short-term treatment during the ‘fake-it’ period, they miss the ‘face-it’ period.  

Typically, the patient returns home, and may even do well for a while, but since there was no real  internal change that took place, the old junk begins to surface and before long, they are right back to relapse.


Please read my article for details on the exact process every Addict/Alcoholic follows towards relapsing

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Relapsing is predictable… but, Good News!

You haven’t failed, you just haven’t been matched with the right treatment-model.

Until the Alcoholic/Addict is allowed to go through a full process of change; allowing time to learn new behaviors, understand feelings, all while giving the brain time to heal.

This complete process of healing & change simply can not occur during short-term treatments.

When the treatment matches the condition your chances increase dramatically!


‘Fast-food thinking’ won’t work for Addiction

If addiction/alcoholism is driven by a lifetime of undealt-with junk, it’s not logical to believe that these issues are going to be adequately addressed in 30 days or less.

Here is the critical difference between short-term and long-term treatments;

Short-term offers this:

Barely enough time to feel better- then bye-bye

  1. The Fake-it phase (lasts 1-90 days)

Any Addict/Alcoholic can ‘keep up appearances’ for at least 90 days. Feels like a victory but ends quickly in defeat! Soon after returning home the addict/alcoholic reverts back to old behaviors because 30 days wasn’t enough time to SOLIDIFY real change.

These programs address about 0.06% of what is required to affect lasting change.

As you will see, the final 3 stages are the most important but are not even available in a short-term program.

Long-term offers this:

Beyond 90 days and still in rehab as the faking-stage ends, allows for real change to begin and keep it’s course.

  1. The Resistance phase (I’m not like these people)
  2. Push-through phase (awakening- Real change is SOLIDIFIED)
  3. Maintenance phase  (equipped for real life!)

Leave rehab a changed-person and ready for the world!


Can’t learn if you can’t slow down

Traditional clinical treatments are designed to hurry the patient through a rigorous series of activities in order to satisfy insurance requirements.

This all happens while the patient is still very sick and should be resting.

The shorter the term, the faster they move you through the process. 

Addicts typically respond to this ‘hurry-up and get better’ procedure by complying-keeping their head down-doping what they’re told to do in order to avoid conflict- but very little actually changes.

Looks really good on paper, but that’s all!

Addicts and Alcoholics are masters of complying. Look really good on paper but no real internal change has taken place. It’s simply not enough time!

When a patient should be resting and slowing down, mentally, a short-term program is pushing them faster & faster…

Then, families are upset why, yet, another treatment program failed their loved-one.




Long-term recovery programs combine faith and science for greater results

Addiction-researchers indicate that the addict/alcoholic brain will take 18-24 months to repair itself, once sobriety has begun.


Serious talk about relapsing

It’s easy to feel like you ‘just aren’t good-enough’. Years of trying to stay sober, doing good for a while, but always ending badly. 

High hopes with every success only to be followed by a never- ending struggle for survival.

If this sounds familiar

We can help you get off the roller coaster of having short-periods of success followed by longer-periods of failure.

What if I told you it’s not your fault?

No, really, there are very specific reasons why you seem to live this roller-coaster life, which means, there are solutions you can learn so you never have to live like that, anymore.

Once you change from the inside-out, your struggle is over. Life will consistent and easier to handle…

But, you have to willing to learn how to change.


Justin’s Lighthouse is about real change


“To make or become different”

Once you become a different person you don’t the old self-destructive thoughts, or anxieties, fears, or, impulses.

Become different person – The real you!

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The one reason people relapse after rehab

  1. They changed some things on the outside but nothing on the inside

In order to make a complete-change, you have to be with professionals who know how to help you change.

You need more than cheerleaders – you need a life-coach who is an expert in addiction AND behavior.

If you truly want to have a healthy and new way of living you must put yourself in the middle of the solutions and stop chasing ‘quick-fixes’, known as, ‘short-term clinical treatment’.

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You need time to gain a new perspective, in…

  • Thinking
  • Behavior
  • Outlook
  • Attitude
  • Coping
  • Responding
  • Motivation
  • Humility

…to become a transformed person!


Don’t you want a new life?

Many clinicians will tell you; “relapse is just a part of recovery”, and to hang in there.

Wait, what?! Are you kidding me? relapse isn’t part of recovery, it’s part of addiction!

It’s not your fault that you keep relapsing, you haven’t been taught how to stay sober for the rest of you r life!

That’s like saying it’s perfectly normal for your wheels to fall off your car while driving 80mph. This would indicate a faulty wheel installation, wouldn’t it?

In recovery, seeking anything less than a complete transformation is literally putting your life in danger.

Are you aware how many people are dying each year from addiction/alcoholism? About 200,000!… That’s people, not cars. Our family members and neighbors.

Overdoses affect people you know

The average ‘overdose’ victim comes from a middle to upper middle-class upbringing. The old stereo-types of “skid row” and “bums” are faulty.

Drugs and Alcohol have taken over all walks of life and are destroying our families… It doesn’t have to be!

I think we all agree that alcoholism and addiction is absolutely miserable;

  • Secrets
  • Stealing
  • Hurting ourselves
  • Hurting others                  
  • Always broke
  • Withdrawals


How do you stop the madness?

As many times as you’ve tried to stay sober, have you ever pulled-it-off for more than a few months at a time?

Probably not, I’m guessing that’s why you’re on our site, so thank God for that, and welcome – We can  help you!


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Families of addiction do some of these things

… but, wish they didn’t

Are you included on this list ?

  1. Make excuses for the Addict.
  2. Over-rescue adult children.
  3. Feel responsible for their happiness.
  4. Can’t be happy unless they are happy.
  5. Say yes when you mean NO.
  6. Feel victimized & unappreciated.
  7. Pretend things aren’t as bad as they really are.
  8. Watch problems get worse.
  9. Say you won’t tolerate any more bad behavior… then, rescue them again! 
  10. Think you have to solve their problems
  11. Believe they are always the victim of some injustice.
  12. Feel helpless as they get worse.
  13. Sacrifice your own work & social time to “fix” their problems.
  14. Believe the promises of change, only to be let down, again.
  15. Stay super busy so you don’t have to think about things.

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Real solutions for families in crisis

Using drugs and drinking alcohol is the way a person copes with their inability to effectively handle life’s difficulties.

Distorted thinking, mal-adaptive behaviors, and poor coping skills,  have all progressed into full blown addiction/alcoholism.

Yes, there is a genetic factor involved. Once a person is impacted by trauma at an early age, the “Addict” gene is typically triggered.

Every addict’s-thorn: Trauma

“Having an experience that results in overwhelming fear in which a person can do nothing about”

It doesn’t take much for a person to experience trauma. Since people can respond differently to painful experiences, the impact of the trauma is based in that person’s perception of the experience.

The impact of trauma is about perception, not the actual event.

We can all experience traumas associated with obvious events; death of a loved-one, losing something important, a debilitating physical injury.

What drives the addiction-process tends to be related to how a person sees them-self;

  • Not good enough
  • Unlovable
  • Unacceptable
  • Loser
  • Insecure
  • Don’t belong
  • and, so on…

Emotional Pain

Regardless of the situation, when a person perceives that they are NOT GETTING, or perhaps LOSING one of these basic wants or needs, it will have a traumatic impact in that person’s life.

A deep-rooted sense of Inadequacy destroys a person’s self-image.

The situation doesn’t have to be true. It only matters how the person perceives it.

Without the ability or coping skills to work through these kind of emotions, the person will seek to fulfill these needs in unhealthy ways.

They will reach for anything that brings relief;

  • Drinking/ Drugs
  • Promiscuous sex
  • Running away
  • Using anger as a tool (releases dopamine)


Addiction is a process- So is recovery

In the addiction process, a person can be the most loved, most cared-for individual on the planet, but, if they don’t perceive life that way it won’t make much difference.

Addicts are in a constant quest for relief, which comes in many forms, 

  • drinking
  • drugging
  • running away
  • instant gratification
  • people-pleasing
  • never ending desire to “Get what they want when they want it”

Families can be very confused after raising kids with incredible opportunities, but, the adult-child still lives in addiction and dysfunction, ultimately blowing every chance at success. 

Trauma is a perception issue, not a reality issue!

The alcoholic/addict has to learn how to change their thinking in order to see reality for what it is. Not, how they wish it was.

Lies every Addict says to self;

  • I’m not enough
  • I’m a disappointment
  • I’ll never make it
  • No use, won’t work out anyway
  • I’m a loser
  • I always blow it
  • I’ve messed up too much

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  • High Anxiety most of the time
  • Can’t sit still, easily bored
  • Lying (when mouth is moving)
  • Manipulating
  • Disappears for days at a time
  • Defiance
  • Always a victim of injustice-can’t seem to ‘catch a break’
  • Demanding
  • Impulsive (low self-esteem)
  • Takes 3 hours to run a 15 minute errand
  • Blaming
  • Less available for family responsibilities
  • Isolating
  • Really intelligent but seems to waste it
  • Mood swings
  • Needs someone else to solve all of their problems
  • Has problems most people don’t have    

Families caught in the chaos of these symptoms know there are much deeper emotional issues are at the root of this dysfunctional behavior

Must change entire Perspective

Our graduates stay sober with a 90% success rate because they gain a whole new outlook!


Confusion of an Addict/Alcoholic

Many times, a person builds resentments and shame from specific events in their life, which they no longer recognize.

When asked; “why so angry”? or, “sad”?, they honestly can’t explain it, and, for good reason.

If addicts & alcoholics could explain what was wrong with them or how to change on their own, they would’ve “fixed” themselves a long time ago!

Wrong Thinking

A common characteristic of addiction/alcoholism is that the person believes they will;

  • “Eventually figure things out”
  • “Be just fine”
  • “Get it all together”.

Well, if it hasn’t happened yet, it’s not going to. At least, not without help.

The problem with this scenario is that this type of thinking is wrong!

However, It does represent the inability of the addict/alcoholic to recognize the seriousness of their own dysfunction.

It’s vital for for the family to stop allowing the addict/alcoholic to call all the shots. Stop delaying the inevitable, and ask for help.


Why previous attempts to get sober didn’t work

The reason an alcoholic addict can’t stop on their own, no matter how much will-power they may have, is because addiction is not a will-power issue.


Addicts can’t stop on their own

If the alcoholic/addict had the ability to solve their own problem they would’ve done it by now.

A recreational drug user can stop at the first threat of;

  • losing a job
  • a spouse
  • a car
  • a child
  • or, anything else they value. 


Alcoholic/ Addicts rarely achieve recovery without systematic help!

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Addiction changes people’s brains

Affects how they…

  • view the world
  • view themselves
  • deal with everyday issues
  • pass judgments
  • handle difficulties
  • develop expectations
  • accept others 
  • view their sense of entitlement

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Substance abuse is a disorder of the brain.

Using drugs or alcohol is a symptom of much deeper internal issues.


Alcoholism / Addiction is Brain Disease






Recovery also changes the brain back to normal

As a recovering Addict begins to see them-self in a new light, they also begin to adopt a whole new out-look upon life.

This internal change translates into a better-handling of external experiences.

Dealing with people, handling difficult situations, and, maintaining responsibilities become much more consistent and productive for the recovering addict.


Keys to change

  • Recognizing the self-centeredness in their behavior/ thinking
  • Healing old hurts
  • Slowing down long enough to learn-new
  • Learn/apply accountability
  • Accepting personal responsibility
  • Spiritual development

While addressing the core problems that drive substance-abuse and the dysfunctional life-style that goes with it.


Mental health issues play a huge role!

Medical Marijuana is allowed at Justin’s Lighthouse, in some cases
Justin’s Lighthouse Recovery program is the only rehab in Oklahoma that supports medical marijuana in the field of addiction-recovery.
With any narcotic, the possibility for abuse or cross-addiction is real. 
However, research shows that medical marijuana can have a greater impact than most pharmaceuticals that are being used to treat mental-illness, with far less side-effects.
We evaluate each case to determine the best course of action.

Justin’s Lighthouse alumni stay sober at a much higher rate!

Our clients learn how to handle life in new ways and are afforded the time and space to solidify these changes before being discharged.

  • Group counseling
  • Spiritual development
  • Individual counseling
  • Daily structure
  • Room to make mistakes
  • Exercise
  • Understanding anger
  • Healing old traumas
  • Life-skills
  • Self-awareness


Families have a right to heal

We include immediate family members at appropriate times throughout the process to help educate and strengthen the entire family dynamic (not just the life of the addict).

Helping recovering addicts develop to their full potential, from the inside-out.

Getting sober is the easy part. Staying sober requires hard work!

We teach clients how to become productive contributors to life.  How to become comfortable in their own skin. How to handle difficult situations without self-destructing.


Life skills

An essential part of staying sober. Most Addicts who return to their old lifestyle do so simply because they don’t know how else to live.

Just like a computer, the brain is programmed and conditioned to respond to distressing events.

For the Addict/Alcoholic, the smallest thing can ‘feel’ distressing, thereby causing a “default” response, such as;

  • Car won’t start
  • Hearing the word ‘No’
  • Losing a sports game
  • Not getting something

A brain that is conditioned to believe it is entitled to what it wants, when it wants it, will automatically default into “addict-mode” upon the slightest offense


Residential programs are suited for each person. 

A huge factor in achieving lasting-recovery is allowing the Addict/Resident to grow at their own pace.

Everybody is different, which means everyone learns, absorbs, and, processes information uniquely.

We treat each person with individualized care. Each resident is allowed to grow at their own pace for maximum impact.


Individualized Recovery Program

Justin’s Lighthouse seeks to empower every Addict to become a transformed person. We don’t seek only sobriety, but, a whole new way living and thinking.

This is accomplished through long-term programming.

We can custom-tailor various plans to make it possible for the person to stay engaged with the program, even when they simply can’t remain in long-term residential.


How to really stay sober…

OUR GOAL is to move our residents through a process of complete change.

Addiction and the behaviors associated with it are merely symptoms of much deeper issues.

Wanting life to be different but learning how to make life different requires a steady course of action which allows the person to learn, heal, practice, and grow.


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We are the spiritual alternative to clinical treatment


We respect all beliefs

Regardless of your religious or spiritual affiliation, beliefs, apprehensions, or, turn-offs, Nobody here will force you to do anything you don’t want to do.

Our job is to help you develop your own walk with God. Not the walk we want you to have.

This usually takes time and we’ll move at your pace.

A lot of Addicts are mad at God (I sure was), and the last thing they want to hear once they get sober is a bunch of ‘God stuff’.

Don’t worry, we’ve been there and can’t wait to respect your wishes!


Families learn boundaries

Boundaries are extremely important for families when trying to get the Addict to accept help. This is the first step of the family learning to  make the tough decisions (even though it won’t ‘feel’ comfortable)

Typically, family members have been trying to help the Addict feel better. The thought of the Alcoholic/Addict experiencing any discomfort tends to drive all decision-making.

This will not work, as it only enables the addict by keeping more options available. Families must trust professionals that know what they’re doing and how to overcome this nightmare! Don’t do anything until you talk to us.


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How Families Enable 

Even when they don’t mean to…

If you’re having trouble getting your Addict to accept help, please remember, paying next month’s rent, or the electric bill, or gas money, or new shoes, etc…  will only make YOU feel better.

In reality, you are making it possible for your Addict to continue using while you provide the resources to exist.

The Alcoholic/Addict typically won’t accept help until all other options are off the table.

Once the person is forced to face the destruction of their life-style, will they consider accepting help.

Don’t buy one more thing without professional guidance!

Addict/Alcoholics, almost always accept help once their families ‘allow’ them to feel the consequences of their behavior.

Stop enabling and watch miracles happen!



Our Beginning…

My little brother was discharged from a clinical treatment program (age 29), after completing all of his assignments, workbooks, and therapy sessions.

Then, he was dead 2 weeks later from a relapse of drugs (pain pills).

Justin obviously wasn’t ready to discharge, but, 30 days was all the time he was allowed

At Justin’s Lighthouse, we take an entirely different approach!


Beacon of Hope

Founded on faith-based principles-common sense – lived-experience

We don’t keep score of units, hours, allotments, quotas, or any other ridiculous thing that serves to stifle the process of recovery.

Clinical treatment programs are built around insurance companies & gov’t contract allocations.

If a client doesn’t “get fixed” within the allotted number of clinical hours, then, too bad!

How would an insurance company know how many “units” it takes to change a human being?

Justin’s Lighthouse…  

“Whatever it takes” attitude to affect change in every single resident!

Families know very well the frustrations and heart-break that go along with watching a loved-one make attempt after attempt to get sober.

The encouragement of seeing early success and then discouragement from watching the repeating cycle of back-sliding.


Families want to believe when they say;

“I’ve got it handled this time”

… But, then, it happens all over again!

Attempting personal change without help rarely succeeds.


The reason for this is simple… 

Real recovery solutions can not come from the same thinking that originated the problem.


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What Einstein has to do with recovery


Albert Einstein said; “It’s not possible to solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it”

In other words, If a person could ‘fix” themselves without help they would’ve done it by now!

The idea that “This time I’ll be able to do it by myself” is called DENIAL THINKING.


Change requires a Spiritual Experience

as thinking changes, behavior follows

A foundational problem with all alcoholic/addicts is in ‘Thinking’.

Dysfunction arises from how a person interprets their experience, and since addict/alcoholics have a distorted perspective, they will always view their experience from a negative orientation.


  1. People are against me
  2. I never get any praise
  3. I always screw things up
  4. Life isn’t fair
  5. They are just being nice, don’t really mean it
  6. I shouldn’t have to do that…
  7. I should be able to do this…

Many people have similar experiences but don’t melt down or self-destruct 

The alcoholic/addict sees life through the lens of their own sense of;

  • inadequacy
  • insecurity
  • entitlement
  • immaturity
  • impulsivity

Being committed to a steady daily routine is the key to develop consistency.

Our program is diverse

Our model closely follows a Therapeutic Community, wherein, all staff members are in recovery and professional expertise to make a genuine impact.


More symptoms of Addiction

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Entitlement
  • Lying
  • Self-centeredness
  • Low self-esteem
  • Inappropriate anger
  • Manipulating
  • Inconsistent work history
  • Relational conflicts


Hearing ‘No’ doesn’t go over well

Addicts have a deep resistance to hearing the word ‘NO’.

When they don’t get what they want they will usually make the the family suffer;

  • anger outbursts
  • guilt-trips
  • pouting
  • blame  (family, circumstances, boss, etc…)

Building self-esteem and accepting personal responsibility are vital for change.

Victim-hood and immaturity

Common defense mechanisms of every alcoholic/addict.

The family is on the other end of the endless complaints of how

  • this person did me wrong
  • that person was supposed to do this thing for me
  • “Once this other situation comes through”.. blah, blah, blah!


Addict’s are Super-Smart!

…  just don’t know how to make right choices

Statistics show that most addicts are in fact, extremely intelligent.

This high I.Q., combined with past achievements and sporadic accomplishments leave an Alcoholic/Addict thinking that eventually they will “figure things out“.

This can be tough for families who are pleading with their loved-one to accept professional help.

As a family member, you may have even heard in the past;

  • “I don’t need that much help
  • I just need your help with getting a new car
  • a new apartment
  • a new job, etc…

… THEN, I’ll be okay!” WRONG!


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Building a balanced foundation is what removes the desire to drink or use.

It’s not a magic trick, but, it does take time for a person to develop a whole new way living.



90% of our clients get better

By learning, how…

  • make their words have meaning
  • develop a spiritual life-style
  • live a life of purpose and accountability
  • become self-sufficient and, generally
  • be transformed into a new person with a new outlook on life.


Real Recovery Requires Real Transformation!

Laying a foundation of lasting recovery requires a support team that is knowledgeable and experienced in the specifics of what your family is going through. 

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We teach clients to think for themselves based on their own values and goals. Learning how to live up to responsibilities, regardless of feelings.

Values and goals are the first things to fly out the window in active addiction. Impulsivity drives decision making.


We too are a family of addiction and recovery, with the professional knowledge and skills to teach you and your family how to achieve success!

Lasting change happens holistically;





Residents embark on their own personal spiritual journey.


We believe, and research indicates, the lack of spirituality is the missing element within secular treatment programs that simply do not work.

Many spiritual leaders are ill-equipped to handle the complexities and specifics of Alcoholism/Addiction recovery.

Approaching recovery with a holistic perspective. Building a balanced foundation that will anyone can carry with them, through life.

JL has expertise in multiple areas, including; biblical counseling, behavioral disorders, drug & alcohol recovery, recovery support, mental-illness, socialization, inter-personal relationships and residential care. 

Helping to change the family dynamic is important.

The whole family has been affected by the behavior of one person.

The entire family needs appropriate opportunity to heal, as well.


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Nobody wants to be an alcoholic…

Imagine waking-up one morning and saying;     

“Hmmm, I think I’ll start using drugs this week”.

It’s not normal to ‘want’ to be drunk or high. The compulsion stems from not knowing how else to cope.

Lacking knowledge, coping skills, and, emotional capacity to deal with the difficulties of life. 


Drug & Alcohol recovery requires common sense

JL implements recovery solutions through common sense, professional expertise, and ‘lived’ experiences.

Each member of our staff has overcome their own battle with addictions, mental-illness. 

We’ve know first-hand, the fear, chaos, and, dysfunction that families face when trying to save the life of a loved-one.

Our personal journey of recovery

enabled us to develop a recovery program for individuals and families that truly changes lives !

FOR HELP TODAY, PLEASE CALL 405-248-2124, or email

J.L. is recognized as a Therapeutic Community, not certified as a clinical substance abuse treatment center.

Therapeutic Communities historically deliver the highest success rates in the addiction field. We are independent from state sponsored curriculum and limitations and do not subscribe to the faulty clinical model.  The Bible, not the State, presents a far more effective program for healing and living a life of fulfillment-joy- and contribution!
Spiritual programs that address addiction and alcoholism were first formalized by Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) over 80 years ago. Since then, spiritual programs of all sorts are proven to be far more successful than clinical,  certified programs.

The most successful spiritual programs are those who respect the personal beliefs of each individual. When used properly (not crammed down throats) spiritual principles lay the foundation for life-transformation that can heal drug & alcohol addictions, mental-illness, behavioral problems, and every other malady common among man.

The J.L. program’s success is built on the foundational philosophy that “in order to gain a new life apart from drugs & alcohol a person must be willing to change every area of their life and be willing to invest the appropriate amount of time to do so”.
Drug and alcohol treatment centers are not the same. long-term Therapeutic Communities have the highest success among all substance abuse programs in the world.

Note: J.L. does support the role of medical science and makes referrals whenever the need arises. Many of our residents are under medical or psychiatric care when they arrive, which we will continue to facilitate. We seek to accommodate these relationships by providing transportation & communication with medical health care providers for the best & most complete outcomes for our residents.

We look forward to helping your family heal!