A beacon of hope for families in crisis

Welcome

Unique program solves more than

drug & alcohol problems

Alcoholism and Addiction are the result of poor coping skills,

undealt-with trauma, and faulty thinking.

 

great place to talk to God (retreat property)

A beacon of hope for families in crisis

Using drugs and drinking alcohol is the way a person copes with their inability to effectively handle life’s difficulties.

Distorted thinking, mal-adaptive behaviors, and poor coping skills,  have all progressed into full blown addiction/alcoholism.

Yes, there is a genetic factor involved. Once a person is impacted by trauma at an early age, the “Addict” gene is typically triggered.

TRAUMA

“Having an experience that results in overwhelming fear in which a person can do nothing about”

It doesn’t take much for a person to experience trauma. Since people can respond differently to painful experiences, the impact of the trauma is based in that person’s perception of the experience.

For example; One student may interpret having to stay after school as acceptable consequences for not doing homework. Another student in the same class may interpret the exact same situation from the lens of their own sense of inadequacy. “I’m always in trouble”, “why can’t I act right”? (not being good enough).

The impact of trauma is about perception, not the actual event. We can all experience traumas associated with obvious events; death of a loved-one, losing something important, a debilitating physical injury.

However, what drives the addiction process tends to be related to how a person sees them-self; Unlovable, unacceptable, loser, unsafe, insecure, don’t belong, and so on…

Let’s look at what kind of fears we’re talking about;

  1. Not getting something we want/need

  • Unconditional love
  • Safety
  • Security
  • Belonging
  • Approval
  • Acceptance
  • Validation
  1. Losing something we thought we had

  • Unconditional love
  • Safety
  • Security
  • Belonging
  • Approval
  • Acceptance
  • Validation
  1. Getting caught for something we did/said

  • Bad behavior
  • Poor performance
  • Inappropriate comments

Regardless of the situation, when a person perceives that they are NOT GETTING, or perhaps LOSING one of these basic wants or needs, it will have a traumatic impact in that person’s life.

It doesn’t have to be true, it only matters how the person perceives it. Without the ability or coping skills to work through these kind of emotions, the person will seek-out to fulfill these needs in unhealthy ways.

Did you know?

The number one reason people join gangs is because they feel like they are accepted “As-is” and they finally “belong”.

In the addiction process, a person can be the most loved, most cared-for individual on the planet, but, if they don’t perceive life that way it won’t make much difference.

This is why families can be very confused after raising kids with incredible opportunities, but, the adult-child still lives in addiction and blows every chance at success. 

Trauma is a perception issue, not a reality issue!

The alcoholic/addict has to learn how to change their thinking in order to see reality for what it is. Not, how they ‘think it is’.

 

Offering spiritual, practical solutions for individuals and families of addiction, alcoholism, and other self-defeating behaviors

Do you know someone with these symptoms?

  • Defiance
  • Lying
  • Manipulating
  • Anxiety
  • Being secretive
  • Low-self-esteem
  • Easily angered
  • Say one thing but do another
  • Blame everyone/thing else
  • Critical of the world
  • Won’t take responsibility for self
  • Believe ‘If Only’ everyone would change…

 

 

 

 

 

 

Families caught in the chaos of these symptoms know that much deeper emotional issues are at the root of this dysfunction behavior

 

3 of 4 families do this, but wish they didn’t…

Are you included on this list ?

  1. Make excuses for them.
  2. Over-rescue adult children.
  3. Feel responsible for their happiness.
  4. Can’t be happy unless they are happy.
  5. Say yes when you mean NO.
  6. Feel victimized & unappreciated.
  7. Pretend things aren’t as bad as they really are.
  8. Watch problems get worse.
  9. Say you won’t tolerate any more bad behavior… then, rescue them again! 
  10. Think you have to solve their problems
  11. Believe they are always the victim of some injustice.
  12. Feel helpless as they get worse.
  13. Sacrifice your own work & social time to “fix” their problems.
  14. Believe the promises of change, only to be let down, again.
  15. Stay super busy so you don’t have to think about things.

 

Residential

Short or Long-term

Out-Patient

In-House or Virtual

Family Counseling

In-House or Virtual

Virtual Counseling

Daily, weekly, monthly

Teen Mentoring

Daily, Weekly, Monthly

People fail in recovery because they don’t change their thinking!

Our graduates stay sober with a 90% success rate because they gain a whole new outlook!

 

Confusion of an Addict/Alcoholic

Many times, a person builds resentments and shame from specific events in their life, which they no longer recognize. If asked; “why so angry”? or “sad”?, they honestly can’t explain it, and, for good reason.

If addicts & alcoholics could explain what was wrong with them or how to change on their own, they would’ve “fixed” themselves a long time ago!

Common characteristics

A common characteristic of addiction/alcoholism is that the person believes they will eventually figure things out”, and, given enough time they will finally get it all together (if it hasn’t happened yet, it’s not going to).

The problem with this scenario is that this type of thinking of is wrong! It does represent the inability of the addict/alcoholic to recognize the seriousness of their own dysfunction.

It’s vital for for the family to stop allowing the addict/alcoholic to call all the shots. top delaying the inevitable, and ask for help.

 

Some key factors that drive Addiction

  • Confused or lack of identity
  • Feelings of never being enough
  • Talk like they “have it all together”
  • Un-dealt with trauma
  • A lifetime of under-achieving, despite great potential
  • Anger comes from a place of shame
  • Never grew-up
  • Magical thinking

 

Alcohol and drug use is merely a symptom of much deeper issues. Once the Alcoholic or Addict is ready for change, a journey of self-discovery may begin! 

 

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Fentanyl killed more people in one year than all these;

  • Cancer 
  • Car Wrecks
  • Suicides
  • Covid-19

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Why previous attempts to get sober didn’t work

The reason an alcoholic / addict can’t stop on their own, no matter how much will-power they may have, is because addiction is not a will-power issue.

Substance abuse is a genuine disorder of the brain.

Using drugs or alcohol is a symptom of much deeper internal issues.

 

Addicts can’t stop on their own

If the alcoholic/addict had the ability to solve their own

problem they would’ve done it by now.

A recreational drug user can stop at the first threat of;

  • losing a job
  • a spouse
  • a car
  • a child
  • or, anything else they value. 

but, Alcoholics/ Addicts can’t stop without professional help!

 

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100,000+ Americans died from overdose in 2021

 

Addiction changes how people…

  • view the world
  • view themselves
  • deal with everyday issues
  • pass judgments
  • handle difficulties
  • develop expectations
  • accept others 
  • view their sense of entitlement

Keys to change

  • Recognizing the self-centeredness in their behavior
  • Healing old hurts
  • Slowing down long enough to learn-new
  • Learn accountability
  • Accepting personal responsibility
  • Spiritual development

… all the while, addressing the core problems that drive substance use and the dysfunctional life-style that follows.

Mental health issues can play a huge role!

Medical Marijuana is allowed at Justin’s Lighthouse, in some cases

Justin’s Lighthouse Recovery program is the only rehab in Oklahoma that supports medical marijuana in the field of addiction-recovery.

With any narcotic, the possibility for abuse or cross-addiction is real. 

However, research shows that medical marijuana can have a greater impact than most pharmaceuticals that are being used to treat mental-illness, with far less side-effects.

We evaluate each case to determine the best course of action.

Tired of relapsing?

An addict must learn why they do what they do and have the time to practice new behaviors…

That’s not gonna happen in a 30-day program!

Why Clinical drug & alcohol treatment programs have lower success rates

They are not designed to facilitate lasting recovery.

Most short-term treatment programs are geared around a ‘fast-food’ mentality;

Get ’em in and get ’em out!

The average relapse rates for 30 day programs are near 90%! That means the addict has a 10% chance of staying sober once they leave treatment.

 

Justin’s Lighthouse alumni stay sober at a much higher rate!

Our clients learn how to handle life in new ways and are afforded the time and space to solidify these changes before being discharged.

  • Group counseling
  • Spiritual development
  • Individual counseling
  • Daily structure
  • Room to make mistakes
  • Exercise
  • Understanding anger
  • Healing old traumas
  • Life-skills
  • Self-awareness

We include immediate family members at appropriate times throughout the process to help educate and strengthen the entire family dynamic (not just the life of the addict).

We help recovering addicts develop to their full potential, from the inside-out.

Getting sober is the easy part. Staying sober requires hard work!

We teach clients how to become productive contributors to life.  How to become comfortable in their own skin. How to handle difficult situations without self-destructing.

Life skills are an essential part of staying sober. Most Addicts who return to their old lifestyle do so simply because they don’t know how else to live…

We help to change all of that!

All programs include many months of out-patient and/or virtual t0 keep you connected

Residential programs;

  1. 12 mo Long-term program
  2. 6 month long-term program
  3. 90 days

Recovering Alcoholics/Addicts need time & space to heal

“WHY CAN’T I STAY SOBER”?

Recovery from drugs is not rocket science. So, why do so many people struggle to stay clean after multiple rehabs attempts? Very simple, they weren’t able to develop an entirely new way of living & thinking in 30 short days.

It’s unrealistic to think that a person who’s been using for 10 or 20 years is going to be ALL better after 30 days of rehab.

Nobody ever said; “I only want to use drugs for 30 days”.

It’s wishful thinking to believe that a life-time of dysfunction can be solved in 30 days.

 

Addiction, by definition, is a Mental-illness. Recovery is not about stopping drug use or stopping drinking, real recovery is achieved through resolving the behavioral and emotional defects while building an entirely new foundation centered on balance.

How to really stay sober…

OUR GOAL is to move our residents through a process of complete change.

Addiction and the behaviors associated with it are merely symptoms of much deeper issues.

In order to achieve lasting change the Addict must first want to make change and be willing to follow the instructions of those who can affect that change.

Wanting life to be different and being willing to do the work to make life different are 2 different things.

Establishing a lasting recovery takes time. Becoming sick & tired of living in dysfunction is typically the beginning of change.

 

Why Long-term is more successful

Our Founders/ Couple in Recovery

Addiction is a complex issue that requires a comprehensive recovery process; Lasting success happens when a person transforms everything about themselves. This can’t happen in a short-term environment.

Most Addicts fail in short-term clinical programs because they fake or “comply” their way through. There isn’t enough time to develop the skills to deal with life without drugs.

J.L. Retreat Property

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We are the spiritual alternative to clinical treatment

… “that’s why it works!”

 

 

Don’t let the ‘God’ issue scare you!

Regardless of your religious or spiritual affiliation, beliefs, apprehensions, or, turn-offs, Nobody here will force you to do anything you don’t want to do.

Our job is to help you develop your own walk with God. Not the walk we want you to have. This usually takes time and we’ll move at your pace.

A lot of Addicts are mad at God (I sure was), and the last thing they want to hear once they get sober is a bunch of “God stuff”.

Don’t worry, we’ve been there and can’t wait to respect your wishes!

Field Trips:

come hike w/us at retreat property

winter-time at main facility                                                                                                                                                    

Addiction is killing off an entire generation of young people, but, it doesn’t have to!

Did you know that much of the heroin today is being mixed with or outright replaced with another deadly drug called “fentanyl”

Heroin addicts who think they know their “tolerance”  with heroin (or pills) end up overdosing because what they got a hold of wasn’t Heroin at all! It was 100% Fentanyl (or laced with it).

Addicts are playing a deadly game of roulette and don’t begin to understand the consequences.

Our family has lived this scenario first-hand. Your family can get help before it’s too late!

 

Overdosing at alarming rate!

Many of the pills that look like Lortab, Oxy-Contin, and Oxycodone are also not what they appear. They can be laced with all sorts of other drugs, causing tremendous damage to the user.

Opioid addiction is not about experimenting!

Drug users have no idea what they’re actually getting, many of whom are over-dosing with amounts far less than they usually take.

Don’t wait for the ‘war-on-drugs’ to solve this problem. It won’t!

Seek help from professionals who have been in the trenches.

Former Addicts who truly know how to address the underlying issues that lead a person to get mixed up in this nightmare.

UPDATEDrug Cartels are now lacing meth & marijuana with Fentanyl. It’s not just for Heroin, anymore!

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If addiction is affecting your family then you are already in the trenches of this battle

Most families dealing with an addict or alcoholic want to believe them when they say;

  • “I promise I’ll change”, or,
  • “I’ll get it together tomorrow”

However, it doesn’t take long before they’re right back into alcohol or drugs.

It feels like the person doesn’t care about the rest of the family. Feels like a slap in the face! After all, ‘if they really loved us they would stop!’

 

‘But our Adult-child is so smart’!

It doesn’t make much sense why an otherwise smart and successful person would throw away a life they’ve worked hard for, just for booze or drugs, does it?


Families need Boundaries

Boundaries are extremely important for families when trying to get the Addict to accept help. This is the first step of the family learning to  make the tough decisions (even though it won’t ‘feel’ comfortable)

Typically, family members have been trying to help the Addict feel better. The thought of the Alcoholic/Addict experiencing any discomfort tends to drive all decision-making.

This will not work, as it only enables the addict by keeping more options available. Families must trust professionals that know what they’re doing and how to overcome this nightmare! Don’t do anything until you talk to us.

 

How Families Enable the Addict

If you’re having trouble getting your Addict to accept help, please remember that paying next month’s rent, or the electric bill, or gas money, or new shoes, will only make YOU feel more comfortable.

In reality, you are simply making it possible for your Addict to continue using while you provide the resources to exist.

The Alcoholic/Addict typically won’t accept help until all other options are off the table.

Once the person is forced to face the destruction of their life-style, will they consider accepting help.

Don’t buy one more thing without professional guidance!

 

Tried treatment before? You’re a perfect fit, here!

The majority of our residents have a history of failed short-term treatment experiences (5 previous treatments is not uncommon).

The reason for this is simple; clinical programs do not spend the time, nor have the spiritual expertise, or, recovery knowledge to teach & guide a spiritually sick person to complete health.

Clinical programs barely scratch the surface of superficial areas & then it’s time to leave…

Regardless of your “religious” beliefs, addiction leaves a person spiritually bankrupt and must be addressed with a spiritual perspective.

We are extremely sensitive to each client’s beliefs and excel in assisting them on their own spiritual journey!

 

Addiction/Alcoholism is a problem that can be overcome!

We offer real solutions that are truly changing people’s lives. We accept clients from all across the United States and continue working with families throughout the entire process (video conferencing/live video groups)

Most of our residents have been to multiple treatment centers, with no success… We can help you STOP the insanity!

75% of American families are dealing with substance abuse and/or mental-illness


 

Symptoms of an Addict                                                                                                   

After the rains at facility

  • Easily angered
  • High Anxiety most of the time
  • Can’t sit still, easily bored
  • Lying (when mouth is moving)
  • Manipulating
  • Disappears for days at a time
  • Defiance
  • Always a victim of injustice-can’t seem to catch a break
  • Demanding
  • Impulsive (low self-esteem)
  • Takes 3 hours to run a 15 minute errand
  • Blaming
  • Less available for family responsibilities
  • Isolating
  • Really intelligent but seems to waste it
  • Mood swings
  • Needs you to solve all of their problems
  • Has problems most people don’t have

 

Our typical resident has a history of;

  • Heroin/ Pain pills
  • Prescription pill abuse
  • Substance abuse
  • Alcohol Abuse
  • Meth use
  • Defiant behaviors
  • Promiscuous sex
  • Gambling
  • Self-defeating behaviors
  • High intelligence, yet history of “blowing it”
  • Relationship problems
  • Depression
  • Mental-illness
  • Homeless/ Couch-hopping (Not allowed to live with parents anymore)

 

Our Beginning…

My little brother was discharged from a clinical treatment program (age 29), after completing all of his assignments, workbooks, and therapy sessions.

Then, he was dead 2 weeks later from a relapse of drugs (pain pills).

Justin obviously wasn’t ready to discharge, but, 30 days was all the time he was allowed… At Justin’s Lighthouse we take an entirely different approach!

Beacon of HopeDr. Miles/ Co-Founder

 

J.L. was founded on faith-based principles, common sense, and lived-experience

We do not like discharge residents until they are truly ready to live a successful life in recovery.

We don’t keep score of units, hours, allotments, quotas, or any other ridiculous thing that serves to stifle the process of recovery.

State “Certified” treatment programs are built around insurance companies & gov’t contract allocations. If a client doesn’t “get fixed” within the allotted number of clinical hours, then, too bad! How would an insurance company know how many “units” it takes to change a human being?

Justin’s Lighthouse  uses a “whatever it takes” attitude to affect change in every single resident!

Families know very well the frustrations and heart-break that go along with watching a loved-one make attempt after attempt to get sober.

The encouragement of seeing early success and then discouragement from watching the repeating cycle of back-sliding.

Families want to believe them when they say; “I’ve got it handled this time!”.

But, then, it happens all over again!

Attempting personal change without help rarely succeeds. The reason for this is simple; Real recovery solutions can not come from the same thinking that originated the problem.

 

What Einstein has to do with Recovery

Albert Einstein said; “It’s not possible to solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it”

In other words, If a person could ‘fix” themselves without help they would’ve done it by now! the idea that “This time I’ll be able to do it by myself” is what we like to call DENIAL THINKING.

A spiritual experience: As denial begins to break, real honesty comes through

 

CHANGE BEHAVIOR and THINKING FOLLOWS

 

A foundational problem with all alcoholic/addicts is in ‘Thinking’. Dysfunction arises from how they interpret their experience. many people have similar experiences but don’t melt down or self-defeat. 

The alcoholic/addict sees life through the lens of their own sense of;

  • inadequacy
  • insecurity
  • entitlement
  • immaturity
  • impulsivity

Learning what ‘right-thinking’ is supposed to look like tends to fall into place as the person begins to make subtle changes in the one thing they can control…Their own behavior!

Being committed to a steady daily routine, however boring, is the key to changing thinking.

Justin’s Lighthouse long-term recovery program

is developed to ensure lasting recovery by addressing far more than a typical 30 day or 90 day clinical program . Decades of dysfunctional living won’t be resolved in just 1 -3 months.

Our program is diverse, yet, simple. Our model closely follows a Therapeutic Community, wherein, all staff members are in recovery and know what it takes to change.

Addiction and Alcoholism are actually symptoms of much deeper and unresolved emotional and behavioral issues.

Understanding symptoms of Addiction

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Lying
  • Self-centeredness
  • Low self-esteem
  • Inappropriate anger
  • Manipulating
  • Inconsistent work history
  • Relational conflicts

 

Hearing the word ‘NO’ doesn’t go over well

Addicts have a deep resistance to hearing the word ‘NO’.

When they don’t get what they want they will usually make the the family suffer;

  • anger outbursts
  • guilt-trips
  • pouting
  • blame  (family, circumstances, boss, etc…)

Building self-esteem and accepting personal responsibility are vital for change.

 

Hard to hear for every Addict

The family is on the other end of the endless complaints of how

  • this person did me wrong
  • that person was supposed to do this thing for me
  • “Once this other situation comes through”.. blah, blah, blah!

Victim-hood and immaturity has become common defense mechanisms in the life of every alcoholic/addict.

 

Addict’s are Super-Smart!

…  just don’t how to make right choices

Statistics show us that most addicts are in fact, extremely intelligent. This high I.Q., combined with past achievements and sporadic accomplishments leave an Alcoholic/Addict thinking that eventually they will “figure things out”.

This can be tough for families who are pleading with their loved-one to accept professional help.

As a family member, you may have even heard in the past; “I don’t need that much help… I just need your help with getting a new car, a new apartment, a new job, etc…THEN, I’ll be okay!” WRONG!

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PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS
The majority of our clients do have substance use issues (and even consider themselves to be an “addict” or “alcoholic”).

Building a balanced foundation is what removes any desire to want to drink or use. It’s not a magic trick, but, it does take time for a person to develop a whole new way living.

 

90% of our clients get better

Because our program teaches them how to face up to their own irresponsible behaviors-how to;

  • make their words have meaning-
  • develop a spiritual life-style-
  • live a life of purpose and accountability-
  • become self-sufficient and, generally
  • be transformed into a new person with a new outlook on life.

 

Real Recovery Requires Real Transformation!

Laying a foundation of lasting recovery requires a support team that is knowledgeable and experienced in the specifics of what your family is going through. 

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We teach clients to think for themselves based on their own values and goals. Learning how to live up to responsibilities, regardless of feelings.

Values and goals are the first things to fly out the window in active addiction. Impulsivity drives decision making.

 

WE’VE BEEN THERE!

We too are a family of addiction and recovery with the professional knowledge and skills to teach you and your family how to achieve success!

 

Lasting change happens holistically;

MENTALLY

PHYSICALLY

SPIRITUALLY

EMOTIONALLY

We help each resident embark on their own personal spiritual journey.

 

APPROACH TO CARE

We believe, and research indicates, the lack of spirituality is the missing element within secular treatment programs that simply do not work.

Many spiritual leaders are ill-equipped to handle the complexities and specifics of Alcoholism/Addiction recovery.

Approaching recovery with a holistic perspective. Building a balanced foundation that will anyone can carry with them, through life.

JL has expertise in multiple areas, including; biblical counseling, behavioral disorders, drug & alcohol recovery, recovery support, mental-illness, socialization, inter-personal relationships and residential care. 

Helping to change the family dynamic is important, also. We know that the whole family has been affected by the behavior of one person.

The entire family needs appropriate opportunity to heal, as well.

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Nobody wants to be an alcoholic…

Imagine waking-up one morning and saying;       “Hmmm, I think I’ll start using drugs this week”.

It’s not normal to ‘want’ to be drunk or high. The compulsion stems from not knowing how else to cope.

Lacking knowledge, coping skills, and, emotional capacity to deal with the difficulties of life. 

Drug Recovery requires common sense, not insurance actuaries

JL implements recovery solutions through common sense, professional expertise, and ‘lived’ experiences. Each member of our staff has overcome their own battle with addictions, mental-illness. 

We’ve know first-hand, the fear, chaos, and, dysfunction that families face when trying to save the life of a loved-one.

Our personal journey of recovery…

has enabled us to develop a recovery program for individuals and families that truly helps !

FOR HELP TODAY, PLEASE CALL 405-248-2124, or email dr.milesklewis@gmail.com

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J.L. is not certified as a clinical substance abuse treatment center (nor do we want to be).

Therapeutic Communities are independent from state certification. We do not subscribe to the faulty clinical model. We believe the Bible, not the State, presents a far more effective program for healing and living a life of fulfillment-joy- and contribution! Spiritual programs that address addiction and alcoholism were first formalized by Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) over 70 years ago. Since then, spiritual programs of all sorts are proven to be far more successful than clinical, “state certified” programs.

The most successful spiritual programs are those who respect the personal beliefs of each individual. When used properly (not crammed down throats) spiritual principles lay the foundation for life-transformation that can heal drug & alcohol addictions, mental-illness, behavioral problems, and every other malady common among man.

The J.L. program’s success is built on the foundational philosophy that “in order to gain a new life apart from drugs & alcohol a person must be willing to change every area of their life and be willing to invest the appropriate amount of time to do so”.

Note: J.L. does support the role of medical science and makes referrals whenever the need arises. Many of our residents are under medical or psychiatric care when they arrive, which we will continue to facilitate. We seek to accommodate these relationships by providing transportation & communication with medical health care providers for the best & most complete outcomes for our residents.

We look forward to helping your family heal!

 

 

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